Find My Charism
Listening to someone hurting
You make room for a person’s grief or difficulty without requiring them to explain it neatly.
Mercy
Responding to suffering with Christ’s compassion and attentive presence.
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Understanding Mercy
Mercy responds to suffering with Christ’s compassion. The Holy Spirit can help someone remain close to a person who feels forgotten, ashamed, grieving, or alone, and respond with patient listening, forgiveness, or practical help. Its particular attention is to the person in their suffering; Caregiving often takes the form of sustained practical support. Mercy honors dignity and truth, including boundaries and help that protect someone from further harm.
Where you may recognize it
Consider the relationships and responsibilities already part of your life.
Visiting someone isolated
You offer companionship and let the person set the pace of the conversation.
Responding to a wrong
You seek a response shaped by truth and compassion, with appropriate boundaries and help where needed.
The Samaritan stops to help
The image at the top of this page shows the Samaritan tending a wounded traveler. Where others have passed by, he stops, comes close, and arranges continuing care.
But a Samaritan traveler who came upon him was moved with compassion at the sight.
Jesus makes the Samaritan—someone the questioner would regard as an outsider—the example of becoming a neighbor. Compassion crosses hostility and becomes concrete, continuing care. Christ calls us to show mercy beyond the people we already find easy to love.
More Scripture & Church teaching
1 Corinthians 12:4–11, 27–31
Paul describes a variety of gifts from the same Spirit, given for the benefit of the whole body.
Catechism 799–801
Charisms are gifts of the Holy Spirit for building up the Church and serving others. Love is their measure, and their discernment includes the guidance of the Church’s pastors.
Catechism 2447
The works of mercy express charity through attention to bodily and spiritual needs.
Romans 12:6–8
Paul includes acts of mercy among the gifts exercised for the community’s good, calling for a willing and cheerful heart.
Mercy in service of others
These ministries and programs may offer ways to serve through Mercy. Speak with parish staff about where help is needed, how to prepare, and the parish’s volunteer process.
Bereavement support
Accompany people grieving a death through the parish’s bereavement ministry. Catholic programs such as Seasons of Hope offer Scripture, prayer and companionship.
Prison ministry and support
Share Christ’s love with people in prison and their families through an established ministry. Kairos offers both prepared team roles and outside support such as prayer, baking, artwork and meals.
Support for pregnant and parenting mothers
Help pregnant and parenting mothers find practical support through a parish team or an established Catholic partner. Walking with Moms in Need is one familiar parish approach.
Resources for learning and preparation
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The Catechism in a Year with Fr. Mike Schmitz
A guided journey through the Catechism of the Catholic Church, connecting Catholic teaching with Scripture and daily life, offered by Ascension.
As you discern
Bring these experiences to prayer, Mass and the sacraments, and conversation with a priest or trusted guide in the faith. Look over time for love of God and neighbor, faithfulness to Church teaching, and the good of those you serve. Joy, difficulty, and others’ feedback can help you recognize patterns. Attend to how people experience your presence when their suffering cannot be quickly relieved. If no example comes to mind, begin with the experience suggested below.
Recall staying with someone whose suffering you could not fix. What helped you respond to the person beyond the problem?
When another person’s pain or wrongdoing stirs strong feelings in you, what helps you join compassion with truth and appropriate boundaries?
Something to try: Offer a visit or conversation to someone who would welcome your company. Listen without rushing to explain their suffering. Ask what support would help and choose a manageable way to follow through. Reflect afterward on what you learned about the person and your own response.
Bring this to prayer
Saint Faustina Kowalska
Come, Holy Spirit. Help me see the person whose suffering I might otherwise pass by.
Give me a compassionate heart and the patience to offer care that respects their dignity.
Saint Faustina Kowalska, pray for me.
Through Christ our Lord. Amen.
Faustina was a Polish religious sister whose diary recorded her prayer and the message of Divine Mercy entrusted to her. Through her witness, many people learned to turn to Jesus with trust and to show mercy through prayer, words, and deeds. Her life connects receiving God’s forgiveness with offering compassion and practical care to people who suffer.
More about her life ↗